This morning on Good Morning America featured discussion on the growing issue of sexting among teens becoming a "plague". Teen boys are asking teen girls to send them nude photographs, and girls who say No are pressured then threatened both verbally and physically.
What has the general response been?
To counsel the girls who've said Yes NOT to send nude photos of themselves, thereby enmasse forcing the trend to 'die out'.
While I do always encourage being proactive in dealing with problematic issues that arise in one's life, the above advice is NOT instilling proactivity; it is asking the victim of oppression to solve their own oppression and does nothing at all to hold the ones oppressing accountable for their repugnant and detrimental behaviour!
Instead of telling the girls not to send nude photos, how about telling the boys NOT TO DEMAND OR ASK AT ALL FOR NUDE PHOTOS!
The permissive attitude of not addressing the behavior of the boys is what had made even more fertile the current breeding ground for sexual assault, which includes sexual coercion, rape, harassment, fault stigma, verbal threats etc., against women.
This isn't rocket science, brothers!
We need to come get our sons; we're still slipping! As Malcolm X once said, "We DONE slipped"!
We fix our sons by first fixing ourselves. What our boys are doing is learned behavior. Learned misogyny. Learned embracing and oppressively executing male entitlement, and learning that doing so has been pretty much normalized.
Also making females to carry the burden of fixing the dysfunctions of males in this society has become the norm. Why would we allow our sons to learn this behavior as being acceptable? We don't teach them that the norm is having someone wipe their asses for them after using the toilet do we?
We have to correct this bullshyt. Fix it! Fix ourselves, and by doing so fix our sons and therefore correct the devaluing of our daughters.
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